Nothing ever goes off exactly as planned. We all have to adapt to every situation, no matter what our expectations are or were. Some believe it’s in the hands of a higher power, and some think it’s fate. I think it’s more human than anything. Everything that happens is in our hands, and our choices – good or bad – make different outcomes in every event.
Whether we accept or fight with these inevitable changes, makes every one of us different. There are too many people who do not accept change very well at all. They are set in their ways and find it difficult to accept any other opinion or way of doing things. These are the people who get anxious or angry, because their expectations were not met. Others see their side as more victorious and need to add salt to wounds, instead of trying to see both sides. This writing is for a particular person who chooses to argue with my feeling on certain issues, who may never read this.
I try to be a person accepting of whatever comes my way, and try to look at certain issues in a more positive light. It doesn’t always happen, and yes, sometimes events are disappointing. As time passes, I can usually find something about the change that was for the better. Part of me has completely changed and other parts of me remain the same. For those who have not spoken to me for awhile, I may be the same or I may be a disappointment.
Recently, I have been approached about faith and politics. I have said it many times before, but still believe these two powerful subjects are relevant with our life experiences, what we do for a living or our environment surrounding us. I have based my living standards on what has been presented to me in my life, and have adapted in certain situations by having a strong belief system. I can not possibly explain this personal belief system to another human, unless they have knowledge and details of my personal life. Nor can I oppose anyone else with their beliefs, unless I have knowledge and details of their personal life.
It is not a matter of disagreement on which side is correct. No human on Earth could possibly know this, in any situation or event. We are all correct and we are all wrong. To ask me to defend your position in faith or politics is a worthless conversation with me, and I think it is a waste of time to convince another of your position on either subject. In my case, I can only show by example; not words.
Presidents, politicians, pastors, priests and other community leaders have made many mistakes, both professionally and personally. There have also been an enormous amount of good in these people over the years, but is it really our duty to be pointing fingers? Isn’t there something good from everyone who have ever had these positions, even if there are mistakes in their lives? Shouldn’t we be banding together with the changes of our world, and not be fighting and fussing with each other? Can we find something positive and good in certain people’s achievements, even if they show the tiniest spot of progress?
I don’t want to be a hateful or judgmental person. In my life’s experiences, and everyone else that breathes, we’ve all had the crooked little finger pointed at us. Sometimes it may even be deserved, but still feels like crap. Good people feel guilty when they screw up and make mistakes. Better people own up to their mistakes. Mean people are blaming others.
Now, before I burst out in a chorus of Kum Ba Ya, maybe everyone should first point at themselves. We should clean up our own messes before trying to show how dirty others are. At times, life is difficult enough without making arguments with each other. Instead, we can talk about so many other things. The best song with the best memory attached is a great conversation. The first time you did anything – first kiss, first car, first trip, first child. Who has the most incredible smile you’ve ever seen? What is the worst or most challenging thing you’ve ever witnessed on your job? Any fond memories we shared with each other is a far better conversation to have with me, than telling me my opinion is wrong and should be corrected to reflect what you think.
And, as it goes, I will not succumb to your arbitrations any longer. My responses will always be light and airy, because I don’t like being called wrong, nor do I think I am doing the wrong thing in life. I’m trying to be a successful human being, and I know you are too. Please quit trying to change me when you don’t know me. Maybe we should just leave it at that.
"Love is still the only dream I know." -- John Denver
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