There are only three traits I find difficult to deal with in others: arrogance, lying and greed. All three will set me off or drive me away from people. Of course, there are some minor tweaks or exceptions.
When the arrogance is confused with pride, it is acceptable. I know of a man who feels deeply for the people of Haiti. On all other aspects in his life, he is a humble and wonderful man. However, he is proud of his accomplishments in this plight. I admire his pride, in this case. It keeps him working harder for the people in Haiti, to accomplish more and make future plans. In this case, it should not be confused with arrogance.
When lying is used for the only purpose of NOT hurting someone's feelings, most of the time this fault is forgiven. "No, dear, your ass is nowhere near as big as hers" is a perfect example of this exception. Absolutely, this is a forgiven lie.
When greed is present, there really is nothing virtuous. I see no good in wanting more than what you have, or being jealous of what someone else owns. In my opinion, Americans are facing an unknown upcoming recession, all due to greed. Buying on credit, beyond your means, is greed, and there is no redeeming quality.
Ahhh, but there is always someone to burst the bubble. Unfortunately, trying to stop my good mood is a hobby of a couple of different people in my life. There are some people in my life who refuse to ask me directly -- how I feel or what I am thinking. They are not the same individuals either. I'm not sure what to do to get the message across to each of them. I'm not sure if they even see what they are doing. Apparently, they think they are more intelligent than me? Better? More in tuned? More knowledgeable of my own feelings or happenings in my own life? I just don't really know, so here I go again, a little pissed off at discourteous people.
Arrogant attitudes is first in line. It's NOT about you! Something said or done may not be about you, nor do I need to defend myself further, because it has nothing to do with you. Do not misinterpret things so easily, nor should you jump to conclusions. It does not favor you, and you should always ask; not assume. You look foolish second guessing, and it is not an attractive trait whatsoever. Talk to me. I am one of the people in this world that gives blunt and honest answers (to a fault, sometimes), but you know this! Some people may have changed their mind, or mended something, or made some different decisions than what you think, and your actions may be based on entirely old information.
The second "sin" of lying is next. "You can't bullshit a bullshitter" is my response. You make me laugh by saying that you never said something, when it has been a self proclaimed statement for years! WTF! Second, do you know how ridiculous you sound when you speak a flat out lie? You lose credence quickly, and tossing this out the window, makes it very difficult for me to listen to anything you have to say in the future.
Now, we have greed. Do you want the spotlight? Steal it; I don't really care. Do you want to take what isn't yours to begin with? Someone's dignity, perhaps? Someone's reputation? Someone's happiness? This is greed and it is not becoming on you or anyone else. However, let me assure you that these items can not be yours with just your greedy mentality of wanting to "steal" them. They are earned and belong only to the person who has earned or created them. More importantly, these traits are within them and cannot be stolen. Your thoughtless efforts simply look idiotic to all who witness your attempts.
I am so weary of defending myself. What I've thought and what I've done in actions are sometimes two completely different things. What I think is my own, and no one else can take it from me, whether it is something you want me to think or not. I may never speak it, so why be so formidable with my thoughts! They are mine only and are no business of anyone. My actions are completely different, in some cases. I do not act on some of my thoughts because, first of all, I would have told you to your face what I have written above. In my cowardly way of communicating with you, I have blogged instead. Second, one of you would have a sock in your mouth and one would have received an atomic wedgie.
Know me or talk to me, and please stop this nonsense. Maybe not to the world, but to me, you look silly and petty.
"There ain't nothing I can do, or nothing I can say, some folks will criticize me.
So I'm gonna do just what I want to anyway, and don't care if you all despise me." -- Porter Grainger -"Ain't Nobody's Business If I Do"
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